Of course NLP and hypnosis training come with their set of myths, as does any methodology that has been in the public domain over time.
What are some specific NLP myths you should be aware of before getting trained?
Here are three:
1. Myth #1: NLP is Magic
Nope. NLP isn’t magic. It’s just well-conceived strategy that works much of the time. But it certainly does not produce positive results all the time, not even close. And it should never be considered a tool to effortlessly get what you want.
Effortlessly? Let’s be serious. I’m not a toddler and neither are you. We don’t need effortless rewards. Adults are OK earning their rewards, right? NLP makes many areas of communication and self-management easier, that’s all.
2. Myth #2: NLP is Manipulative
People can be manipulative, you bet. NLP is a set of communication skills, though. You certainly can use NLP to manipulate people, just as you can use any form of communication to manipulate people. Whether or not you manipulate is a matter of character, however.
What’s up with your character? Are you going to use NLP to manipulate people, or are you more ethical than that? If you’re ethical, then stop worrying about manipulating people. You’ll use the power of NLP to help people instead.
3. Myth #3: NLP Eye Accessing Cues are Good Lie Detectors
Nope. This one is pure hoax. Oh, I am sure some misguided NLP pracitioner started this myth, using his wild imagination and limited knowledge to do the field of NLP a huge injustice.
Yes, some people actually think NLP eye accessing cues should expose liars because NLP ‘claims’ this is the case.
It’s not the case. It never has been and never will be. Give it up.
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